1. So Done - When you reach a stage where you are completely and utterly done with life. You couldn't be more done if you tried. You are so done with absolutely everything and everyone.
'I am so done, you couldn't be more done than me'
'Siobhan spends her entire life being done.'
2. So Done
When you reach a stage in life where you are completely done with everything and everyone. You couldn't be more done if you tried because its reached a peak point.
'Karmin spends her entire life being 'so done''
3. So Done
Unable to handle any more of the current situation. Typically occurs during work. Employees will often refer to this state using the code "Sod one" if their employers are nearby.
Dude, I'm So Done I can't even handle this anymore. Do you think they would fired me if I just like, left?
4. i'm so done
to be so out of touch with the topic at hand that one calls out this phrase to switch the topic out of any of the following reasons: embarrassment, boredom, fear, or other indiferrence
Carmen: Sends picture of Robert as a princess
Robert: That picture is so non-heteronormative.
Carmen: I'm so Done, I'm so Done!!!
5. i'm so done with you
When you have nothing else to say because the topic made you either embarrassed, angry, or laugh too hard.
Tom: damn gurl you got the booty
Tina: OMG Tom I'm so done with you!
I have omitted the examples dealing with romantic relationships because I'm not dealing with them here, not because I'm so done with men. Although I am.
I'm hearing this phrase (or ones which mean the same) used increasingly, particularly since 2020, because the Western world is concurrently faced with a pandemic, science denial, conspiracy theories, political corruption and, at this end, a war. Last week I counted six times different people either said in person or online that they just couldn't do with people any more. Oh, how I know. And I had an ambition to be a hikikomori even before the world nose dived.
There is an interesting parallel to this idea in the magical world. In the Charge of the Goddess she says, 'I am what is attained at the end of desire,' echoing the broader magical tradition that if you want it you won't get it. Most magical workings require you to forget what you want because this lets the thought form go and manifest the new reality. If you keep worrying it you keep the thought with you and stop it happening, rather like digging up seeds you have shown to see if they're growing.
This is what is meant by the difference between the magical will and wanting something. Do what thou wilt does not mean do whatever you want, in fact doing what you want gets in the way of the will. This is called lust of desire:
The term "lust of result" first appears in Crowley's writings in the First Chapter of The Book of the Law:
For pure will, unassuaged of purpose, delivered from the lust of result, is every way perfect. (AL I:44)
In his Commentaries on the Book of the Law, Crowley typically discusses the concept of "lust of result" along with that of "purpose."
From the Old Comment (1913) on AL I:44:
Recommends "non-attachment". Students will understand how in meditation the mind which attaches itself to hope of success is just as bound as if it were to attach itself to some base material idea. It is a bond and the aim is freedom.
I recommend serious study of the word unassuaged which appears not very intelligible. (Magical and Philosophical Commentaries, p. 135)
From the New Comment (1920) on AL I:44:
This verse is best interpreted by defining 'pure will' as the true expression of the Nature, the proper or inherent motion of the matter, concerned. It is unnatural to aim at any goal. The student is referred to Liber LXV Chap. II, v. 24 [see below], and to the Tao Teh King. This becomes particularly important in high grades. One is not to do Yoga, etc., in order to get Samadhi, like a schoolboy or a shopkeeper; but for its own sake, like an artist.
"Unassuaged" means "its edge taken off by" or "dulled by". The pure student does not think of the result of the examination. (Magical and Philosophical Commentaries, p. 135)
EDITOR'S NOTE: The definition of "unassuaged" in the above commentary is incorrect from the viewpoint of Standard English usage. The definition of "assuage" is "To make (something burdensome or painful) less intense or severe; To satisfy or appease; To pacify or calm." Unassuaged would therefore be the opposite: to make something already burdensome or painful fully (or perhaps more) intense or severe; to deny satisfaction or appeasement, to disturb or agitate. This editor is unsure whether the divergence of the definition as presented in this commentary from that in common usage was intentional or in error. Source
So far I have been predicting how the current crises listed above would end in fairly mundane terms. But what if so many people's true will is safe and just world and they also all are so done or lose the lust of desire all together?
"So done" is a generational turn of phrase. It was said by teenagers who eventually became the "millennial" generation. Predominately millennial women, in my experience, but I could easily imagine it being popular among gay millennial men as well. All the gay men I know are my generation or older. I like to think of it as the "Oh, honey." gay generation. If we're good friends, I'm probably about to have my clothes tucked in and/or my wild hair temporarily tamed shortly after the words are spoken. Or its said in empathy as we commiserate over shitty days/lives at the moment.
ReplyDeleteWe can thank the xennials for the phrase, "I could give zero fucks." As if ambiguous fucks have become some kind of currency or unit of measure. Hahaha
Oh honey, thanks for this. Very enlightening!
DeleteIn fact I've just realized that I was already so done and gave zero fucks thirty years ago, and that's why I reminded people of Sophia Petrillo!
I love what each generation brings to the table. Some things more than others, but you'll never find me dissing (disrespecting) anyone of any generation for making things their own. I believe we grow into who we were meant to be.
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